Never Stay Too Long!
Grandma Mary is back with her next set of wisdom transfers. She has her set of ideologies where she feels you should not stay for a long time and the first one was Whining.
Oh, my wonderful humans are you still Whining?
Oh please don’t stay too long in there! Want to know why? Do read the below link
So let’s move forward with our next story. Hope you remember Grandma Mary's grandchildren Rita, Ram, and Joseph with whom she shared the bedtime stories. One night Ram was furious and yelled :
“ I will never forgive him”
To which Grandma said “ Forgiveness will set you free”
So never stay too long holding Vengeance!
2) Holding Vengeance
Grandma Mary says Forgiveness is for you and not for anyone else. Once you learn the art of forgiving, you will set yourself free. It feels so light and yet powerful to be able to understand and accept someone.
Ram was a brave, strong, and smart kid. He was the most adorable person one could ever meet. He wanted everything and everyone around him to be perfect because according to him he was the most righteous one.
Akbar was his best friend with whom he shared all his secrets, happiness, and sadness. One day Akbar borrowed huge money from Ram and fled to a new city without intimating him.
Ram was broken and his trust was shattered to pieces. Ram never tried contacting Akbar and carried this hatred. He started gossiping about Akbar, making stories and putting him down so he could feel better. As days passed by this started bothering him more, was obsessed with it and the feeling was not healthy.
Ram decided to talk to Akbar and eventually after hearing his side of the story was able to forgive him. Forgiveness is not an easy road and most of the time takes a lot of time. It is a constant effort and realization.
Forgiveness is not about forgetting what happened or denying the harmful impact but replacing it with goodwill or at least accepting the offender. It’s therapy to your mind.
So when you think about the person who hurt you, also think are they forgivable? If you find one act of theirs that was positive then try the art of liberating yourself by playing the tape of good memories which eventually gives you the courage to forgive, forget and calm down your own emotions.
3) Comparing
Joseph was the youngest grandchild of Grandma Marry. He was the most competitive of all. He always wanted the best things for himself and worked really hard to get them. But one day he realized that his friends who were putting in half his efforts are also getting similar things at a much faster rate than him. This made him restless, sad, and dishearten. So one night he asked:
“ Grandma, why does my life always seem one step backward compared to others”?
Let me narrate the story of birds and then answer your question said Grandma.
Crow, Swan, Parrot, and Peacock were best friends but all were comparing each other and felt the latter had a better life than them.
Crow: One day met Swan and said look at your color, you are so white and majestic and everyone loves you more than me
Swan: Have you seen Parrot? He is so colorful that I always wished I could be him
Parrot: Are u guys kidding? Have you ever thought of Peacock, he has such a beautiful body and feathers. I wish I was half attractive as him.
Peacock: I always envy Crow he is blessed with the freedom to fly and enjoy life without disturbance. If someone sees me, they cage and make money out of my beauty. I feel so out of control of my own life.
Grandma Marry: So tell me who has better opportunities and choices compared to each other?
Joseph: Each bird is different and they are unique in their own way.
Grandma Marry: Exactly hope you got your answers.
We as humans are unique to each other. We have the power to write our story. There will always be someone who’s richer, smarter, and more attractive than you. Comparison is generally the fast track to unhappiness. So instead let’s try to track our own path and the below pointers may help when you fall out of track:
· Timelines are different for each of you
· Water your own grass
· Be grateful to what you have
· Turn Comparison to Inspiration and try learning from each other
· Stop thinking about what others think
So ending this article with 3 lessons of Grandma Marry, Never stay too long:
· Whining
· Holding Vengeance
· Comparing yourself with others
If the story you’re telling yourself isn’t the one of empowerment, strength, and optimism, then tell a better story. Start again!
